Before we meet, I just wanted to write down a few things so that one day you can read them and hopefully they may make you smile. Perhaps I’ll save this letter until a time when I think you need to hear these words, or I can’t be with you.
I’m very excited about meeting you, I’m nearly 37 weeks pregnant with you so it won’t be long until we meet now. I wonder what you will look like and what your personality will be like. I hope that we get on really well and that we’ll be friends forever. I would really like that.
I have included some things that I have learnt so far in my life. Hopefully you will see some truth in them too.
Friends. Probably the single most important thing that will help you in all stages of your life. Treasure good friends and make the effort to keep in touch with the ones that really matter to you. Distance yourself from people who are negative and who bring you down. Surround yourself with those who make your mouth ache from smiling and who encourage you to be the best that you can be.
Family. Ok, so you can’t pick your family and you may have less favourite members, but remember that we all love you. We all show our love in different ways and sometimes you may doubt it, but be reassured it’s as strong as the pull of the ocean and there is nothing that your loved ones won’t do for you. Family is everything. They are the ones that will be left when no-one else is. When you’re being horrible and mean and rude. We will still be here. There’s nothing you can do that will stop us loving you.
Men. What can I say? Your Dad and I will bring you up to know your own mind, so trust it. Trust your instincts when it comes to men, if it doesn’t feel right it isn’t. Men don’t always tell the truth, but not all of them lie. For every bad one you come across there’s a good one who will treat you how you deserve. Be careful not to take for granted when you do come across a good man who makes you happy. Men may not be your preference, like I said, you will know your own mind and as long as you’re being true to yourself, we will be happy with your choices in life so don’t worry.
Work. Try and find something that you enjoy doing, because you’re likely to be doing it for a while and the more you enjoy it, the less like work it will seem. It’s okay if you don’t get it right first time, don’t be afraid to change jobs and try different things. It’s easy to get settled in a job that isn’t right for you, try and find the strength to move on if this is the case. You will always kick yourself for not doing it sooner when you do find something better.
Passion. Find something or some things in your life that you are really passionate about (it may not be work, but great if it is) and wherever you go, go with all your heart.
Travel. Do it. Travel as much as you can, whenever you can, wherever you want. Say yes to every offer of an adventure that you get. You will regret the things that you don’t do when you get older, not the things that you did, take it from me, I am lucky to have few regrets but not everyone can say the same.
Politeness. You must be polite. This is a must. Don’t forget to say please, thank you, I love you and most importantly, sorry. Be polite even when the situation or person doesn’t deserve it. You won’t get respect if you can’t be polite and it shows good strength of character. You are no better or no worse than anyone else, remember this, it’s important. No-one should talk down to you. But when someone does (they will), it doesn’t give you the automatic right to do the same to them. Take a breath. Think about your response for a second. I know it’s hard (not one of my strong points either) but try. You will come out of a situation better if you don’t lose control. If someone needs to be told, pick your time and words carefully. What would a really cool film character do in the same situation? Would they rant and rave over the other person or would they wait till they had finished ranting, then look deep into the persons eyes and say something cutting, witty and true to put the person in their place? Try and be cool.
Fear. Be brave. To really make the most of this life you will have to take some leaps of faith, not knowing if it’s the right thing to do at the time or not. Be intelligent. Not all risks are worth taking or are a sensible idea, but if they’re not too dangerous and won’t hurt anyone, try it. At least you’ll never wonder, what if.
Love. Be careful with your heart. But when you choose to love, love passionately and with all of yourself. You may get hurt and it won’t be nice but at least you will know that you gave everything, no regrets, and then move on. You must let go of the past. It will only make you miserable if you hold onto things, you must always try and move forwards.
Be thankful. Be grateful for all the good things that you have in your life. You are luckier than you know. It’s easy to always want more. It’s good to strive for better but don’t get so lost in moving forwards that you don’t stop and look around every once in a while.
That’s it for now my baby daughter.
See you soon, I can’t wait.
Love you loads already,
Mum xx
P.S. I forgot one. Parents. We have been around for a while so it’s possible that we may know what you’re going through when we offer you advice. But remember our opinions are our own, not yours and we’re not always right. At least hear us out, then make up your own mind. Don’t go along with what we say as a matter of course, question points of view, don’t be afraid to have your own opinion about things.
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this is so touching and cute! this will be so wonderful for your daughter to read some day when she’s old enough to understand! love it!