…inside me.
Which as common as it is, is still a very weird thing to happen. The most curious thing about it is that everyone seems to have an opinion or word of wisdom to tell you about the whole deal.
I never figured my 
pregnancy would become public property and quite frankly it’s annoying. People have never been so forthcoming and forceful with their opinions on my career choices, choice of property or relationship, but with this everyone has a tale of gloom that they insist on sharing with you. I’ve already heard a thousand more negatives than positives and wonder why people think it’s okay to assume you made the decision to enter parenthood lightly.
There is a smug, patronising air to most of the comments and only one appropriate response allowed from lady with bump – to nod and smile. For fear that they will think you an unfit mother before it’s even born.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m ecstatic about my pregnancy. It was planned, and the bump is very much wanted and looked forward to. But the comments and dramatic tales of woe that go along with it most certainly are not!
I’ve always been a private person, this is no different. I don’t need to or want to share every detail with every Tom, Nick or Sally and I also don’t want their opinions either. There is no greater expectations than that on a mother-to-be, someone that already has enough to face physically, mentally and emotionally.
And so I have decided to share my feelings on this, in the hope that I’m not the only bumpy woman who feels this way. I will continue to share my less conventional views of pending motherhood through my blog. In part for my own therapy and in part to be a voice to all the people who think it’s okay to offer an unwanted opinion on the matter and say inappropriate things. It’s not okay, we’re growing a human here, we don’t need your crap on top of it all cheers.
P.S. For those of you who put these words down to hormones, watch this space…I dare you.
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I don’t know what it is about pregnancy and parenthood that suddenly makes people feel comfortable in judging and critisising you for everything. My primary piece of advice is to remember it’s YOUR child. Everybody else and their opinion can go to hell if they’re not comfortable doing things your way! Good luck with it all.
Thanks Stace, reassuring to have an agreement a few minutes after I’ve posted the article, not the only one after all… All the best to you too